Being a Parent is Hard Work
Lets face it; being a parent is HARD WORK! It's a job that never ends. Which isn't a bad thing, but also requires some balance, and an intentional effort to create that balance. We can find some of that balance in self care. Taking time for yourself to fuel yourself so you can show up as best you can is one of the best things we can do for our children. We live in a society where busy-ness is praised and self care is not. Reject that mentality and tune into what your body and mind needs to be the best version of yourself.
Here are some ideas for low to no cost self care:
-Identify hobbies you have. If you don't have any, think about what you would enjoy doing with some free time based on your interests. Often times hobbies post kids can look different than before kids. Create time for yourself to spend on these hobbies. -Go out with friends even for a one hour coffee visit. -Get a pedicure or a massage. -Go for a walk. -Get out in nature. -Get up an hour earlier than the rest of the house stirs to get some quiet time in for a work out, journaling, or sitting and drinking a cup of coffee with out interruption. -Indulge in a small treat for yourself that you don't ordinarily get. -Hire a mother's helper for a few hours to help you get some things caught up around the house for a low fee (folding laundry, organizing a closet, wrapping presents, picking up bedrooms, cleaning, etc.)
As you're creating space for yourself to do these things, have the intentional thoughts that you are SERVING YOURSELF. Do some visualizations of a cup filling up....your cup. Often times first time moms or working moms have guilt around taking this time for themselves. Don't!!! Know that you are honoring you child, by honoring yourself and your own needs.
Here's my favorite: What fills me up most is getting out into nature and noticing all the beauty around me. It makes me feel grounded, and connected to something greater. When I'm doing this by myself I enjoy bringing a journal and letting my thoughts and worries be released onto the pages. I do a visualization that I am releasing onto the pages what no longer serve me, or what I am calling more of towards me, depending on what I'm writing about.
What are some things you enjoy doing to fill your cup? Or what are some things you want to do for yourself but have put off? What are your barriers?